Drama, Drama, Drama

I'm not sure who all reads this so I don't want to put my foot in my mouth. All I want to say is that Dave's mom didn't take it well that we were asking her to stay in a hotel room when the baby is born. She thought she was going to be able to come out for Thanksgiving and stay with us through Christmas without even asking. Dave asked her if she comes for the birth to stay in a hotel or wait until Christmas to stay with us. She threw a fit and caused a lot of drama last night. She said some really mean things about me that are still hurting today. I have the best husband though and he didn't want to hear his mom talk about me like that and isn't on speaking terms with her now. The sad part is that Dave and I already talked about paying for her hotel room so she can be out here for the birth. I guess that didn't matter though cause she said that she will just see her grandchild whenever we make it back to Pittsburgh.

I don't know what to do about her. She is a big part of Dave but continues to try to come between us. It will truly hurt Dave if he doesn't have his mom out here when his son is born. Is it too much to ask for her to stay in a hotel though??

The other thing she was pissed about is the baby shower. My sister and I haven't even planned anything yet. All we know is that it will probably be within the first 2weeks of Aug. Dave's mom thinks that we are trying to exclude her in the planning of that like she thinks we did for the wedding (which is another post entirely). What can she do from Pittsburgh though and we haven't even started planning. It's just so frustrating cause we never know what she's going to be like when we talk to her.

She just doesn't understand how much we try to do for her. Dave and I talked about flying her out for the shower and 4D ultrasound we want to do then too. But again she didn't care to listen to us. She just feels like I'm the cause of all of this but doesn't realize that this is how both of us feel. We would like to begin our family with as little drama as possible when he first comes home. I just had to vent a little of the story even though there is plenty more. I'm sure this won't be the only time I have to vent about her either.

Need Some Advice

I know it's still awhile off but I started thinking last night laying in bed about having family out for our babies birth. I want as many people as possible to come out when I give birth. The thing is that I'm becoming nervous about having people stay with us. Particularly Dave's family. My parents have already stated that they will be here. My parents will either get a hotel room or stay with my sis though. They already know they don't want to get in the way. Plus I know I can tell my fam to give us some space and they will listen. Dave's family will barely be able to afford a flight out here let alone a hotel room. The thing is that we would have Dave's mom, step dad, his sister, his 2 nieces (7 and 5) and boyfriend. The problem is we only have a 2 bedroom apartment with one extra queen size bed.

Let me sidetrack real quick to give you some background why I'm really starting to freak. When Dave and I lived in Virginia, his family came to visit all at the same time. It was his mom, step dad, sister, 2 nieces, husband, and grandma. Luckily we had a house but it was still only 2 bedrooms. We had his gram sleep in the bed and the rest of the family slept on air mattresses. His mom and step dad were in the dining room. It just got WAY too crazy to have that many people in such a small place. And his family doesn't get along the best either so it was very stressful.

So I started picturing all of that happening again when they come out here in our small, and I mean small, apartment. On top of that we will have a newborn to take care of. I don't know how I'm going to react to having a newborn around either. I'm going to breastfeed so that means a lot of sleepless nights for me. I'm not the best when I'm tired and don't feel like having to entertain his family. The other thing that is bothering me is thinking about how his mom is going to constantly tell us what we should and shouldn't be doing. Since this is our first, I want Dave and I to have that experience of figuring things out ourselves. Dave is allowed 10 days leave when the baby is born. I kind of want Dave and I to have those days to bound with the baby and not have any kind of drama while he's off. Am I crazy to feel this way?? I'm hoping we can convince Dave's family to come out for xmas. That would give us some time to bound and adjust to a baby around but we'll see.

MIA

I just looked at my blog and realized that I haven't posted anything in FOREVER. I just don't seem to want to be on the computer when I get home from work nowadays. I was finally able to connect to the families internet at work so I'm hoping to be able to post a lot more now.

So much has happened I'm not sure where to start and if I even remember all of it. The past week and a half my mom was out visiting. We had such a good time. The first day she was out I was lucky enough to have a Tuesday off so my sister and I took her to the Aquarium. None of us had ever been so we thought it was a perfect place to go. It was really neat. The best part is there is a huge tank with all different kinds of fish. The day we were there they had divers go in the tank to clean and feed the fish. I have some really neat pictures from the day and hope to post them soon. My brother, Dave and I also took my mom to the San Diego county fair. We all enjoyed walking around and eating all the crazy stuff you can there. Dave tried a fried snickers that was pretty good. I could only eat 2 bites because it was too sweet for me. It was sad to see my mom leave but she already has plans to be out here Aug 4-24. I'm hoping my dad can make it out with her this time.

The most exciting news that we received on Saturday is we are having a baby boy!! We had an ultrasound only for that reason. Dave and I were both pretty nervous to find out. We both really wanted to have a boy and seemed scared about having a girl. Dave because he didn't want to think about dealing with her dating when she's older. Me only because I felt like I would have to teach and show her sooo many things that I learned on my own. My mom was never the best at telling us certain things about being a girl. But we don't have to worry about that because it's a boy!! That seemed to make this pregnancy A LOT more real to us.

Speaking of the pregnancy I couldn't be happier with it. I have had a pretty good one so far and hoping things continue like they are. I haven't taken a picture but I am definitely showing. I had to go out a few weekends ago to get maternity clothes. They are very cute and EXTREMELY comfortable. I joke with Dave that I could wear these clothes all the time even not pregnant. We have another appointment July 10th so hopefully everything continues to go as smooth with me and the baby.

Dave's one friend from his old sub is staying with us for a month while he takes a class here. I'm sure there will be plenty of things going on while he's here. We haven't decided on the plans for the 4th of July weekend yet. My brother mentioned having people over so if so we'll most likely be there. I'm thinking of taking a few trips to the pool while the weather has been pretty warm. Warm at least for San Diego ;) I hope everyone has a good and safe holiday weekend.

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